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(Jeff Djevdet, CC BY 2.0)
Q: 結婚選好日為什麼虧大了?
第一虧:熱門好日=親友兩難的低出席率
在熱門好日結婚,親友們常會在同一天有2~3張喜帖,出席率肯定大受影響,或是往往得遲到、早退、趕場。一生中最重要的日子卻無法賓主盡歡,何等可惜!
第二虧:熱門好日=什麼都難訂
夢想般的婚禮是搭乘高雅禮車、披著一襲千挑萬選的白紗走在心儀場地的紅毯上,在最信任的婚攝快門捕捉下,將新秘用心講究的髮妝和一切的美好記錄下來。但在熱門好日,要將所有完美元素齊聚一堂實在難如登天…。反而,明白「日日是好日」的觀念後,才能打造完美婚禮!
第三虧:熱門好日≠幸福婚姻
新人們擠破頭要挑黃曆上不到30天的熱門好日,但台灣的離婚率卻是全球第二高,顯然選好日並不能保證什麼。其實,「經營」才是幸福婚姻的關鍵。
Q: 我也認同「日日是好日」的優點,但…要怎麼和家人溝通?
時空背景變遷
古時文定、迎娶往往要跋山涉水,舉辦婚宴又多在戶外,因此黃曆乃根據古時的氣象統計,歸納出哪些日子的「天候」適合前述儀式。但現今交通發達,婚禮型態也已大不相同,因此未必要拘泥於黃曆。
原來我們被唬嚨了600年
不僅如此,黃曆中更不乏人為因素,其中最著名的例子就是「農曆7月」的迷思。台灣民俗館副館長顏榮豐表示,明太祖朱元璋篤信風水,並深信農曆7月為吉祥月,但因為他想「獨享」這段吉時,因此派人在民間散佈「7月不吉,天將降禍」的謠言,還派人假扮道士四處賣符,招搖撞騙,沒想到意外讓「農曆7月不吉」的觀念流傳至今。因為台灣人是明朝時移居來的,是華人世界唯一完整保留此觀念和儀式的族群,所以我們被唬嚨了600年!
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仔仔:重點是兩人相愛,所以「有空」的日子就是好日子
向來行事低調的仔仔(周渝民)某天突然毫無預警地宣告死會,大家驚訝之餘也詢問他為何選那一天?他覺得結婚的重點是兩人相愛,所以「有空」的日子就是好日子,而沒有特別看日子。其實,真的只要新人有空、家人有空、賓客有空,那就是大好日子!
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可選在好日「登記」
家人或長輩的堅持,都是因為愛我們、希望我們幸福。因此,若家人或長輩仍堅持看黃曆,可以選在好日「登記」,畢竟現今早已改用「登記」作為婚姻起算點,因此若真是「寧可信其有」,建議選好日「登記」讓家人安心,而「儀式」或「宴客」則可以「日日是好日」。
「經營」才是幸福的關鍵
「寧可信其有」的觀念需要被打破,若認為選了好日子就一定沒事,反而不去經營維繫,那婚姻大概也只剩下結婚這個好日子。因此,我們更該相信「要怎麼收穫、先那麼栽」!幸福婚姻倚靠的不是運氣或機率,而是「經營」!
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