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(Michael Salvato, CC BY-NC-ND 2.0)
從未想過要當藝人的戴君竹,因為演出偶像劇《鬥魚》而打開知名度,就此展開截然不同的人生。經過不斷地尋覓與追逐,戴君竹不僅事業有成,她的愛情更在去年開花結果,與同是圈內人的黃懷晨攜手步入結婚禮堂,共同譜寫幸福樂曲的新的一章...。
簡單但難忘的求婚
「他帶著我來到第一次約會的金山海邊,當著我最愛的家人面前單膝下跪,拿出戒指向我求婚。」這是黃懷晨向戴君竹求婚的情形,也是她一生最難忘、最有意義的回憶。認識許久的兩人,雖然交往的時間並不算長,但在黃懷晨的認真與無微不至的呵護下,戴君竹重拾對愛情的信任與憧憬,更因此義無反顧地投入婚姻中。
生命轉折出乎意料
戴君竹坦言之所以被黃懷晨吸引,是因為他與自己的父親有相同的特質。原來,戴君竹從小就很黏父親,「打開相簿,我的每張照片幾乎都和爸爸形影不離!」在她的印象中,父親永遠是那麼樂觀、溫柔、慈祥,從來沒有強迫她要達到自己的期望,只是勉勵她要學好英文,甚至不惜籌錢送她出國留學,以此提升她的英文能力與國際觀。
原本戴君竹以為自己會像一般的女性,在二十多歲嫁人,然後當個英文老師或上班族,簡簡單單地度過一生。然而,這樣平凡的夢想,就在戴君竹十八歲時,被突如其來的意外打得粉碎……。一場車禍奪走了父親的性命,為戴君竹的人生帶來極大的衝擊;一向以父親為靠山的她,生活頓時失去了重心。為了逃避喪父的傷痛,戴君竹決定全心投入工作,也在因緣際會下踏進五光十色的演藝圈。
永不後悔的選擇
被迫成熟起來面對世界的戴君竹,親身經歷過現實的殘酷,也談過失敗的感情,心中對婚姻的嚮往可說是完全破滅。原以為自己不會再被愛情眷顧的她,完全沒想到祝福竟會以她意想不到的方式悄悄地靠近……。
「現在回想起來,我和先生會進入演藝圈,就只是為了與對方相遇!」戴君竹一臉幸福地說著。因為工作而認識的兩人,一直以來都是交情不錯的朋友;直到有一年戴君竹生了重病,雙方的關係才開始有進一步的發展。當時,黃懷晨十分關心因病憔悴的戴君竹,經常會抽出時間來陪她散心、帶她去看醫生。這些貼心的舉動讓戴君竹感動萬分,「他居然願意在我最憔悴、低落的時候真心地照顧我!」隨著對黃懷晨認識愈多,戴君竹愈被他正面、樂觀的個性吸引,確信他就是值得託付終身的對象;然而她也知道,一旦結了婚,她的事業勢必會受影響。
某天醒來,戴君竹問自己一個問題:「十年之後,我會後悔為了事業放棄他,還是後悔為他放棄了事業?」仔細考慮後,她毅然選擇了婚姻。有人為戴君竹因為結婚而失去某些機會感到惋惜,但她並不這麼想,「我只是選擇了『婚姻』,既然是我的選擇,就沒有後悔!」
愛與尊重,奠定婚姻根基
由於戴君竹與黃懷晨在婚前就有明確的協議,為彼此的關係立界線,包括:不能失聯、說謊、離家出走,吵架一定要當天和好……等,因此衝突雖在所難免,但他們都會堅持要把話講開;藉由傾聽對方的想法,了解彼此的心情,並以尊重、包容的態度相待。也難怪戴君竹敢肯定地說:「我們婚後沒有特別磨合過。」
「但婚後最大的不同,應該是心態吧!」戴君竹補充道,雖然在交往時關係一直很穩定,但有時難免會感到不安。如今,她發現自己變得比以前更有信心、更加勇敢,因為知道不論在外面受了任何委屈,家裡永遠都有個人會給她支持及陪伴。所以,婚後的戴君竹很喜歡與先生一起去健身,或是一同在家裡煮菜、看 DVD,享受「兩個人比一個人好」的甜蜜生活。
結婚至今將滿一年,戴君竹開始調養身子,同時也調整未來的工作計畫,期望二年後能順利懷孕生產,享受為人母的喜悅,而她也願意在小孩出生後減少工作量,花較多的時間在家中陪伴孩子一同成長。至於對小孩最大的期許,戴君竹的答案是「快樂」,而這也是夫婦倆的共識;他們不求孩子有優秀的表現,只希望孩子能平安地長大,當一個品行端正的人,這樣就相當足夠了。
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