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(Cary and Kacey Jordan, CC BY-NC-ND 2.0)
Me2We小編按:許多朋友都曾分享孩子出生後,兩人的重心都在孩子身上,不論是開心的事情、流淚的事情...都與孩子有關。但漸漸地,也發現兩人的關係不像以前那麼緊密。因為小編也有孩子,可以體會這種心情,其實,這都是正常的過程,而且每對夫妻都可以找到最適合的相處方式,來兼顧養育孩子和經營健康婚姻。但若是想知道怎麼樣更有效率地找到適合的相處方式,不妨來參考一下前人的智慧分享吧!
孩子到來,為婚姻帶來豐富色彩,同時也引發挑戰
經營健康的婚姻需要用心及承諾,特別是當有了孩子加入家庭後。這個(養育孩子+維繫健康婚姻) 過程雖非都是容易的,但絕對值得!若是您和配偶也希望在養育孩子的同時,經營一段健康、喜樂的婚姻,一定不能錯過這18個重要觀念。
以下18個重要觀念,是採訪眾多夫妻,特別是孩子有特殊需求的夫妻後統整出來的。對一般夫妻來說,養育健康的孩子就已經充滿許多挑戰,而這些受訪的夫妻們縱使在更加複雜的情況(孩子生理或心理的特殊需求)下,依然能夠擁有美好的婚姻與家庭關係,我們來看看他們充滿智慧的分享吧!
18個婚姻生活中累積的智慧結晶
1.尊重彼此克服困難或挑戰的方式。
2.當躺在床上時,兩人先暫不討論養育(或治療)孩子的事。讓臥室成為專屬與你和配偶的空間,讓兩人可以專注關心彼此的身心靈。
3.為彼此保留溝通的時間。
4.幽默、幽默、幽默...,而且記得時不時做點讓自己開心的事情!
5.不要指責對方,因為你們是站在同一邊、攜手克服挑戰的「好夥伴」!
6.記得要來個兩人約會,就算是在住家附近散個步、或一起吃頓簡便晚餐都很好。並且要多聊天,分享彼此的喜怒哀樂,都有助維繫健康婚姻!
7.當你的配偶沮喪低沈時,你要為了對方堅強起來,並好好陪伴、支持對方。相信當你比較低沈沮喪時,對方也會為你這麼做!
8.有爭執時,先退一步,並讓自己沉浸在對方關愛孩子的目光中。最後,你會發現「愛」才是最重要的。
9.別為小事抓狂,真的!
10.承認並接受我們都有犯錯的可能,而且我們都是「養育孩子」的新手。
11.接納彼此的限制與軟弱。
12.兩人就像在跳一支舞,一支由清楚的溝通、耐心、幽默感、深呼吸和很多的愛交織而成的舞。
13.笑聲...笑聲...還有很多很多的笑聲!
14.可靠的保姆,和養育(或治療)方針。
15.保留時間給自己,1不論是夫妻兩人共處時間,或是你自己的獨處時光。
16.優先重視彼此的需要。
17.互相尊重。
18.記得,你們不只在「同一艘船」上,而且更要航向「同一個目標」。
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