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(Ali Nishan, CC BY-SA 2.0)
原生家庭的家中排行居然和婚姻中的溝通相處也有關係!?
是的,當我們進入婚姻時,會一併將自己原生家庭中「所扮演的角色和特質」,帶進新建立的家庭及婚姻關係中。原生家庭中「排行」順序也對婚姻中的溝通相處激起不同的火花,身為老大、老二、老么或獨生子女,各會在婚姻中呈現什麼樣的特質與需要呢?
老二(涵蓋中間排行):懂得配合,也比較壓抑,需要有機會傾吐心中的感受
為了得到父母的關注與肯定,老二的個性會和老大有互補的傾向,例如:老大偏內向、老二就會比較外向,老大若調皮、老二就會比較乖巧。整體來說,老二個性上是最懂得配合及察言觀色,因為在家中的「權力地位」不如老大,而且有老大作為「前車之鑑」,因此若老大被父母懲罰的事情,老二就不會去做,老大做不好的,老二就會努力去完成,以得到父母的肯定。
長久下來,老二的配合度高,同時也壓抑了一部分自己天然的個性。老二擅長的事情未必等於是他喜歡的事情,這很有可能是在排行結構下訓練出來的,因此老二需要有傾吐心中感受的機會。當您的配偶排行是老二,在遇到兩人的衝突時,建議可以在討論「事件」的同時,也多詢問「感受」,讓對方的心得釋放與安慰喔!
預告:那排行身為老么,在婚姻關係的溝通相處中,又會有什麼特色與需要呢?敬請期待喔~
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幸福參考品:
1. 幸福學堂,武自珍老師
2. The Birth Order Effect for Couples, Cliff Isaacson and Kris Radish